Everything unusual and unknown causes fear. Accordingly, the information becomes very valuable. What is around the corner? What awaits me tomorrow and the day after tomorrow? What are the prospects in this area? What do these people expect from me? What is the economic situation in the country? Information helps to calm your fear.
When we start something new, even if the business we desire, we always experience fear, because the unknown is ahead. And the more valuable the goal for us, the more fear we will experience in the process. It is human nature to exacerbate his inner state: What will happen if it doesnt work out?
In order to cope with your anxiety, you always need to remember your ancient brain, this allows us to sober up a little.
My life is out of danger, in reality there is no danger
Yes, there are places in war in the world and bullets are whistling this is a real danger. But there are a lot of peaceful places in the world and all the dangers are largely invented by us. The ancient man really had dangers around every corner: wild animals, bad weather, bad harvest. In the modern world, people have learned to organize their lives in such a way that we always have something to eat, where to sleep, what to wear, etc. In this sense, we have largely secured ourselves. Of course, there are and always will be those people who are still fighting for survival in the modern world.
Interestingly, people who have to survive are much braver than those who live in comfort. When you survive, you have no choice, you act on the basis of vital necessity. If you try to steal a bun in the store when youre full, you will begin to have a lot of psychological barriers, thoughts, you will worry what others will think about you, about the consequences if you get caught. But if you havent eaten for 5-7-10 days, you dont think about anything at all, you just take it and eat it right in the store, and you dont care that they look at you, that you are being led somewhere, the most important thing you did eat.
Why do we worry so often about what others think of us? Why is it so often the fear of condemnation or sidelong glance stops us? In the ancient world, the affiliation and location of the tribe to which you belonged was important at the level of survival. If you are excluded you are bad, get out, it would be tantamount to death; to cope alone with those severe conditions was almost impossible. Relationships with society at the level of the ancient brain are issues of survival. And now the reptilian part of the brain continues to equate situations they dont like me to death, seeks to avoid such situations and build its behavior, its life like everyone else.
Only a man himself, at the level of conscious work, can control his fear realizing that fear is only a familiar strategy to cope with life.
Fear. How does it Show up in the Body?
Fear is revealed brightly in our body, we should learn how to notice it.
Body. The very first reaction of the body to fear is the increase of tension in almost all the muscles of the body. The muscles of the shoulder girdle are tightened, the shoulders rise up to the ears, the body slightly deviates back and freezes. There is some muscle tonus in the arms, legs, buttocks, lower abdomen, back of the thighs. You can notice fear expression in raised, tense shoulders. At a low intensity of fear, many small movements of the fingers begin to appear: touching hair, a face, a neck, clothes, etc. Small movements are a clear marker of anxiety. In order to look confident, men often hide their hands behind their backs, but fingers keep tugging behind their backs. A person often shuffles his feet.
Hormones. Adrenaline
Body language. The micro motion eyebrows up lasts literally a split second at a slight intensity of fear. Horizontal wrinkles appear on the forehead, the forehead is tense. The eyes widen precisely at the moment of fear, the lips are tense, the mouth is usually horizontally stretched.
Breathing. A vivid breathing pattern appears in fear: it is very superficial, breathing fades. It seems that a person breathed some air in the form of a resource and froze not to give it away.
Look. At a low intensity of fear, when there is no obvious danger, a person searches for the source of this danger, so his eyes are running, twitching and moving sharply from object to object. When the intensity of fear is increasing, the gaze begins to slow down, stop and lose focus. When a person has a very strong fear, he seems not to see anything neither outside nor inside himself, his gaze goes to nowhere.
Inner sensations. Anxiety begins with tremor, a vibration occurs in the body, which is expressed outward through small, fussy movements. Usually in the inner sensations this is accompanied by a strong heartbeat, constriction and pulsation are felt in the abdomen. When fear is increasing, the pulsation goes inside, it accelerates so much that the body becomes immobilized. If you imagine the rotation of the wheel of a bicycle, at first you see the movement of the spokes, but with an increase in speed it seems that it stands still, you see neither movement nor details. When the intensity of fear increases, twitching movements disappear, a state of freezing appears, the body is like a wooden one, you do not own it.
Direction. The body slightly deviates back and freezes. There is no motion.
Speech. The voice often has a high tone, phrases become interrogative, intonation rises yes? , will we go? , affirmation is lost, because a person is not sure. Speech becomes fast and steel. At high intensities of fear, the tongue gets numb, a person has lost tongue. At a low intensity of fear, there are fast changes in topics and distraction is observed.
There are people who hide their fear behind their anger I am so scared that I am angry. This is a characteristic of counter-phobic behavior. In such cases, the voice becomes louder, but the larynx is pinched and the voice becomes loud, sharp and steel. There is fear behind such allegedly angry behavior.
A fearful state is an insecure state.
It is said that in fear a person unconsciously chooses one of the strategies: fight, flight, freeze. But that is not quite right. In order to fight you need to find energy somewhere. We take it from a state of anger when you find aggression in yourself in order to fight back. In order to flight, the movements of the body must be very fast it is also a mixture of fear and anger.
Pure fear without other defense reactions is a stop
And then when you choose a strategy of survival, you can fight or flight. But at first you will freeze.
Fear. Processing
Fear has many names. This emotion has over 20 titles a record among other emotions. This suggests that we very often face fear in everyday life.
It is believed that anxiety and fear are different emotions and conditions, that anxiety, unlike fear, does not imply real danger. We adhere to the opinion that anxiety and fear are not differentiated. If there is no danger in the real world, we imagine it very real within ourselves.
Doubt is fear of low intensity. When a person doubts, it means that he is in a certain state of anxiety, he looks for the right solution and is afraid to make a mistake. The more fears a person has, the more doubts he has. The doubting person does not always realize that he is now experiencing fear.