What else can I say? I still do sports. I focused on training the cardiovascular system and did aerobic exercises, avoiding tough strenuous activity. I did a lot to improve the performance of cardiovascular and respiratory systems, so my training activities were mainly directed to achieve this goal.
My wife supports me in everything that I do. Of course, she was surprised a lot with the result. After a while I realized that it is the only right way of healing all the disorders (regular meetings with a psychologist, medical supervision, split balanced nutrition, sensible sport), that it changes the internal state of the body, I urgently tried to draw my spouse into it, almost by force. I realize now that it was a mistake. This state can only be achieved if a person makes this decision on his own. We have to love and accept our nearest and dearest just as they are. There is no need to draw our beloved into your way or force them to do something. They see everything. If they like what you are doing, they will follow you. As for us, we just have to love them. Thats all. As soon as I stopped trying to draw my spouse into ranks of people losing weight and started to do things related to love and emotional support, and the family turmoil came to an end. Our relationship became deep and balanced.
Group session of psychologist
Artyom Andreyevich Ovechkin:
Have you ever counted the calories?
Yes.
Anzhelika. Anyone else?
Nika. Fine.
Was it dreary?
Yes.
Sure.
But you get accustomed to it.
Agree, Nika?
Yes.
But still, I dont really want to count calories, especially for the rest of my life. We have to settle it. Tomorrow Ill tell you about it.
I will explain how to count the energy value of food in an easy way that allows decreasing excess weight. You can get slim without endless mathematics that makes your head whiz. It would be terrifying!
Our lives are not about counting, but we can take into energy the value of food by using a new simplified system in order to improve the quality of life.
Weve got a key to open this door.
But the most important thing is to understand why this extra energy contained in extra food is just begging to get into the body. So, the things are starting to get clearer. Weve got a few hints on what we are dealing with. The reasons are as follows: you do not distinguish between true hunger and false hunger and feed with food both hunger of your body and hunger of your psyche. Because of the false hunger, you eat a lot of excess high-calorie foods, trying to relieve negative emotions and stress with food.
What are the other reasons for excess food getting into your body? There is a critical one. A person begins to spend time, money, and energy on others, forgetting about the needs of his psyche and body.
N.B.! Love your neighbor as yourself.
This effective formula has been existed for over two thousand years. It reflects the wisdom of harmony, balance, and the health of the individual and society. It tends to fail when Love your neighbor has been put up on a pedestal, and yourself has been almost completely neglected.
Zap and you push yourself aside, to the bottom of the list! What about your neighbors? We give them everything beyond all measure: our time, money, attention and energy! Every day, every moment we save everybody except ourselves. Wake up in the morning, put your 911 cap and run to do some good, right?
What about time for yourself?
Should I feed myself? Yes! Feed! I have to do so many things!
We will deal with this problem. Why does a person with excess weight constantly lack resources for himself, but provide others with everything they need?
You get into details and realize that hes not obliged to do this or that. But everyone comes to him and asks for help. Please! When sometimes the person tries to say no, the seekers start to shed a tear and lay on the sob stuff with a trowel: Please!!! In a while, you start to feel sympathy for them, right? Certainly. The others try to get what they want not by sympathy but by bullying. For example, a person with excess weight tries to deny a request. What? What did you just say?! The person replies: Oh, sorry, you are right And once again, he starts to do everything for everyone.
We have to settle it in class. Are you familiar with this problem? Be honest. One, two, three, four. Anybody else? Five, six, seven. Seven people. As you see, its a common problem.
N.B.! The lifestyle when you do for others the things that they can do by themselves leads to gain of excess weight!
You feel offended. You give them everything and get
Nothing!
Nothing. Then you comfort yourself with eating. Besides, you feel guilty because no matter how hard you try to cater to every whim of others, youll never be able to please everyone. Its getting more and more annoying. No leisure, chronic fatigue. You suffer from chronic fatigue, but you dont sleep enough. As a result, headache or heartache appears. This, in turn, makes you feel anxious. You comfort yourself with food. Again. Its a vicious cycle.
N.B.! Rule seven.
A slim person knows how to treat others and himself properly. He is aware of his physical and mental needs, allocates enough time, money, and energy to meet these needs.
A slim person does not do for other things that they can and must do by themselves.
N.B.! Rule eight.
A slim person stays slim because he does not transfer responsibilities for his life and his weight to other people and circumstances.
Olga Vladimirovna Tsyganova, 28, economist, lost 110 lbs It was hard for me to say No but I kept learning. Of course, sometimes, it didnt work. Even now, it doesnt always work, as I am a kind, helpful person by nature. But it is really useful to learn how to do it at least sometimes. I am very sociable, and it always hurts me when my pals and me go separate ways. I do everything to keep them in my life, but I do not allow anyone to get a free ride on my back. There was a recent instance when I told no to a person very dear to me. So what do you think? He has not gone out of my life; he knew that its hard for me to fulfill all his requests. The person just said that he would never ask me for help again. At first, I had a bitter feeling inside of me. I was afraid of losing him. Imagine my relief and joy when I realized that our communication had not changed at all! I have plenty of such examples no need to cultivate feelings of anger and resentment if we can change the situation. You just need to learn how to refuse requests if you do not see any benefits for yourself. Any relationship is based on mutual contributions, not on the efforts of only one person.
Reasons of gaining excess weight
Now lets talk about traditions and their effect on excess weight.
How much do we usually cook for Christmas Eve and New Year party?
Plenty.